I believe a kiss can make or break a relationship (or potential for a relationship). I need chemistry in a relationship and a kiss can say so much. Mind you, there is so very much more to being in a relationship, but this post is about kisses.
I started thinking about it when the cover of Scientific American Mind caught my eye. Ok, actually the large cover title: Your Sexual Mind caught my eye, but then I saw the subtopic below it: What Kisses Mean: The Surprising Power.
Information to ponder upon (from the magazine):
–Human lips enjoy the slimmest layer of skin on the human body, and the lips are among the most densely populated with sensory neurons.
–Kissing unleashes chemicals that govern human stress, motivation, social bonding and sexual stimulation.
— Some theorize that a kiss carries such weight because it conveys subconscious information about the genetic compatibility of a prospective mate. That kissing evolved as a courtship strategy because it helps us rate potential partners.
–Research has shown there is more activity in two brain regions that govern pleasure, motivation and reward. Addictive drugs such as cocaine similarly stimulate these reward centers.
Kisses are a better fate than wisdom
— E. E. Cummings
Give me a kiss, and to that kiss a score;
Then to that twenty, add a hundred more:
A thousand to that hundred: so kiss on,
To make that thousand up a million.
Treble that million, and when that is done,
Let’s kiss afresh, as when we first begun.
I loved you in the morning, our kisses deep and warm,
Your hair upon the pillow like a sleepy, golden storm,
Yes many loved before us, I know we are not new,
In city and in forest they smiled like me and you,
But now it’s come to distances and both of us must try,
Your eyes are soft with sorrow,
Hey, that’s no way to say goodbye.
— Leonard Cohen