—free from external control and constraint; a neutral or uncommitted person; not controlled by outside forces
Being “independent” sounds like a good thing, but I think it is a sham.
To live in this world and being a part of it means connecting with others, being influenced by what is going on around you and having to deal with emotions and situations that you can not control.
People depend on others: partners, friends, family, enemies. Being dependent is not a bad thing.
Of course one can take either way too far and that has the possibility to lead to disaster. A balance of the two is best. I don’t know what that balance is, but it is something to strive for.